As guys, we are normally saying the wrong thing or doing something insensitive without thinking. We usually aren’t hung up or driven by our emotions, as much as the girls are. You think making plans for the weekend is simply texting her saying ‘let’s do something on Saturday’? No Guys – They want actual plans including, dates, times, directions or maybe even a printed itinerary. So you find yourself getting the cold shoulder again and here you thought you were doing something good.

We’ve asked around and here are 5 crucial steps to apologising to your missus.

  1. Have a think about what you did and understand why she is upset. We both know that you had good intentions, but for the sake of the exercise put yourself in her shoes. Be ready to show her that you understand how she feels.
  2. Understand why you did what you did. Take a look at why you did what you did. Ask yourself is there anything I could have done differently?
  3. Admit you did something wrong. Tell her that you realize you could have approached the situation in a different way and you understand why she is upset. Identify and discuss the ways you will approach the situation differently next time. (i.e. Don’t make the same mistake again.)
  4. Give a heartfelt apology. Now that she has heard that you understand the reason she is upset and you have also allowed her to see where you’re coming from, tell her those two magic words. “I’m sorry.” (Be sincere)
  5. Back up your apology with action & seal the deal. By now she has accepted your apology and is talking to you again. Just to reinforce how much of a good guy you are, send her some flowers with a handwritten note saying, “I’m sorry”. If you’re game, you could even agree to watch the Notebook with her… AGAIN.

 

The goal of this exercise is not so much for her to talk to you again but for both of you to understand each other better. It is crucial for you to understand why she is upset and it is equally important for you to articulate your thought process behind your actions.

You’re Welcome,

The Best Man


  1. A man with vision. Winston Churchill says, “What is the use of living, if not to strive for noble causes and to make this muddled world a better place for those who will live in it after we are gone.” There is nothing like enjoying the company of a man who sees the possibilities in life. He wants to live a life of adventure and so when I step into his life, he isn’t waiting for something to happen. He has already made something happen and I get to be a part of that.
  2. A thoughtful man. There is a certain joy that springs up when you realize that all those times you were talking, he was actually listening. So whether that’s my favorite random flower, a book I’ve been eyeing, shoes I have on a wish list or a date night somewhere I’ve only dreamed of. Thoughtfulness pays off so much, in the long run.
  3. A man of integrity. “A man is as good as his word.” Women are drawn to a man who can stand by his word. No one is perfect, but integrity is an amazing trait to have.
  4. A confident man. Whether you wear suits and dress to a “T” or wear skinny jeans and flannos or a combination of the two. Confidence is the one article of clothing that is unseen to the naked eye. The display of self-confidence differs from pride. Pride demeans others. Confidence empowers.
  5. A man with a great sense of humour. Please make us laugh. Even when we are mad. Laughing with someone breaks down walls and brings safety.

 

Sincerely,

All Women.


 

  1. We never have time to do stuff. I’ve been at work all week; all I want to do on Saturday and Sunday morning is sleep in. Maybe we can have Date Night once a week.
  2. Why I’ve stopped going to the gym. Honestly, I’d rather go on a date with her.
  3. Who I am friends with. If she doesn’t like my friends then we just have to agree to disagree. She can go out with the girls on those nights. (She is probably right about my friends.)
  4. Leaving dirty dishes out. Okay, I should at least know how to put a plate in the dishwasher.
  5. Not being romantic enough. “I watched The Notebook with you instead of going out with the guys, and I bought you flowers TWICE last year!” I could still probably make more efforts on a day-to-day basis. FYI – I actually have a surprise picnic planned for our anniversary.
  6. “Where are you going?” All that matters is that I’m not going somewhere she wouldn’t want me to go and I should and I will try to keep her more in the loop.
  7. Why I don’t return texts/calls immediately. I have a job and a life and sometimes, they get in the way.
  8. Why I still keep in contact with (insert ex-girlfriend’s name here). Okay, this one’s perfectly warranted and completely wrong. I don’t keep in touch with any ex-girlfriends… honestly!
  9. We always do the same things. I know I should mix it up from time to time, that’s the reason why I arranged that romantic picnic for our anniversary.
  10. When am I going to marry her? I don’t know. But I still need a few more months or years to think about it. After all, this is a decision that’s going to affect both of us for the rest of our lives.